Once I had a friend.   I could talk to her about anything.   When I was upset she would calm me when I was scared she would reassure me when I was confused she would explain things so I could understand them.   Then one day something happened.   One misunderstanding turned to another and another  Feelings got hurt on both sides.   Assumptions were made.   It went from bad to worse.   Then she said something that cut very deep and to this very day she has never apologized.   Even thought she hurt me deeply I still miss her.   I wish we could fix the mistakes of the past.   She called me once said she missed me, but she never called me again.   If se really missed me she would have called again.   I did talk to her when she called we talked for 4 hrs.   I would not be apposed to fixing the friendship but I need an apology for what she said about me if she wants to fix it.

     I am a patient person.   I had another friend that I cut all contact with for nearly year. That friend realized my value to her and she not only apologized she did the 2 things I told her to do to get me to forgive her.   When she did what I told her she needed to do to get my forgiveness I gave it to her because she earned it, and she and I are still friends to this day.   Apparently the first one mentioned does not value me as much as the second one did or she would have given me the one thing I needed to forgive her and apology for destroying my security.